How to apologize

A good apology has three parts:

1.  "I'm sorry."

2.  "It's my fault."

3.  "What can I do to make it right?"

 

Most people forget the third part.

How to fuel a conversation

1.  Be the first to say "Hello".

2.  Introduce yourself to others.

3.  Ask a person's name if you've forgotten it.

4.  Show curiosity and sincere interest in finding out about others.

5.  Tell others about the important events in your life.

6.  Demonstrate that you are listening by restating their comments.

7.  Communicate enthusiasm and excitement.

8.  Tell others - in a few short sentences - what you do.

9.  Reintroduce yourself if someone has forgotten your name.

10.  Tell others something interesting about what you do.

11.  Smile, make eye contact, offer a handshake.

12.  Greet people that you see regularly.

13.  Be able to speak about a variety of topics.

14.  Keep up to date on current events and issues that affect our lives.

15.  Find ways to keep in touch (e.g. a business card).

16.  Start and end your conversations with the person's name.

17.  Compliment others about what they are wearing, doing or saying.

18.  Include everyone in the group in conversation.

Source: De Morgen - 16.07.2023
Source: De Morgen - 16.07.2023

"Jargon often gives a touch of legitimacy that makes non-professionals seem like professionals."

Stéphane PIRSOUL

psychiatrist

How to improve yourself

Be patient.

Personal growth takes time. Embrace the process and be patient with yourself. Instant success is an illusion.

 

Embrace failure.

Don't be afraid to make mistakes. They are stepping stones to success, teaching you valuable lessons along the way.

 

Value solitude.

Find comfort in solitude. It's in these quiet moments that we often gain the most insight about ourselves.

 

Set personal goals.

Outline what you want to achieve. Having clear goals gives you direction and motivates you to work towards them.

 

Continuously learn.

Never stop learning. Read books. Take courses. Learn a new skill. Pick up a new hobby. An open mind is a growing mind.

 

Practice mindfulness.

Being present allows you to fully engage in activities and creates a deeper understanding of yourself.

 

Challenge yourself.

Push beyond your comfort zone. Personal growth happens when we challenge ourselves.

 

Take care of your health.

Eat well, exercise regularly, and prioritize sleep. A healthy body supports a healthy mind.

 

Cultivate positive relationships.

Surround yourself with people who inspire and support you. Positive relationships enrich our lives and encourage personal growth.

 

Practice gratitude.

Appreciate what you have. Gratitude helps maintain a positive outlook on life.

 

Avoid comparisons.

Your journey is unique. Comparing yourself to others can hinder personal growth. Focus on your progress.

 

Be authentic.

Be true to yourself. Authenticity invites genuine growth.

 

Implement self-care.

Take time for activities that nourish your body and mind. Self-care is not an indulgence - it's necessary for maintaining balance and promoting personal growth.

How to stop taking things personally

Realise that other people's rudeness is not about you. When someone is rude it's likely to be a reflection of their own issues.

Ask yourself what else the comment or behaviour might mean. For example, if someone doesn't smile or say hello, they might be shy.

Take comments or criticism in a constructive way. Ask yourself if there's any truth to it, and what you can learn.

Take a different perspective. Ask yourself how an unbiased outsider would see the situation.

Realise that you can't please everyone.

Know that you're not defined by your mistakes or criticism.

Realise that your self-worth depends on you. It does not depend on what others say about you.

How to network at an event

Going to a networking event alone? Here are three tips:

 

Check if a guest list is available beforehand, so you can read up on the attendees. Are there interesting people among them? Make short notes on what you'd like to ask these individuals. It makes approaching them less 'scary'.

 

Prepare questions in advance that you can ask anyone. Some examples:

"What is your professional dream?"

"Why did you choose this profession?"

"What are some of the biggest lessons you've learned?"

 

If the conversation is winding down, but you're unsure how to end it, ask the following question:

"I've made a commitment to myself to talk to at least three people tonight. Do you know anyone you would recommend I speak with?"

Asking for help makes the other person not feel rejected when you conclude the conversation.